Once they come off

Most of us have a mask that we use to hide how we truly feel. It's like a mask to show we’re alright even though we're not but not wanting anyone to worry about you. Most of our answers to “how are you?” Would be a “I’m fine :) ” but how often do we really mean it? Not that often right? Even so, we tend to put others before ourselves that we just end up overusing that mask to the point that it breaks because it's been so overused, has been through a lot and it's probably soaking wet from the inside with all those hidden emotions behind it. Imagine having to wear one every single day pretending you're happy, everything is in place and perfect when really everything is falling apart and nothing was ever in the right place. Once that mask comes off.. What should you do? Wear a new one? Or show who you really are..?

Always look within

I'm never really a fan of people who are quick to jump to conclusions, then again who is? Some people just don't understand all the background work that's happening and the effort put in to produce the perfect show for them. They sometimes forget that it's not that simple, that life is not that simple. It just puzzles me sometimes as to what's going through those peoples mind and what makes them think that everything is so perfectly simple.. A good example that I could think of is how people think that people with depression should just 'be happy, go out more and be active' they make it sound so simple that they forget that depression is having to constantly fight with yourself because you are in a state where you feel like everyone is better off without you, that they don't need you, that they're just using you.. I mean I could go on but the list is too long for me to write one by one. So just remember that sometimes, the way we think about a person isn't they way they actually are, that looks can be deceiving. 

Plans

Sorry if I haven't posted in a while. I've just been occupied with placement that I haven't really had time to sat down and let my mind wonder off with thoughts (which is good in a way LOL). But these past two weeks I learned more about decisions for my future, I learned that the path I'm on isn't for me and that this path isn't what I want for my future self. Maybe it's because I'm still considered young, that its not too late for me to change course anyway but I saw the reality and it's not a job I see that is worth of keeping. 

It's all connected

Everything is always somehow related to each other. Even when you think it's not, they would somehow relate to something bigger. Just like how twigs are connected to branches which are connected to a trunk. But what would you do if you were to chop the branch off? Does that mean you've just chopped off a chunk of your problems? But by doing that you're practically damaging yourself right? So what would your next move be then? To leave it and let it grow?

Opportunities

Ever want something but can't have? I'm sure we've all experienced this, but what can you do? Would you pursue it or give up? Would you find ways to get it or just look the other way? It'll all depend on how much we want to get it right? how much it's worth to us? Knowing that we're all different and all have different views in life, something you 'must' have might be someone else's 'could' have. So I guess you could say that since we have different wants and likes, we would miss out on opportunities that other people are willing to take. Opportunities that could benefit us just as much as it benefits them. 

Doors

Starting a new chapter in life. It's pretty scary isn't it? Not knowing what's ahead and not having a single clue, I know I'll be scared because I like to have a rough idea as to what's coming. I'm scared of not knowing, scared of the dark, scared of the unknown.. But some doors are there to be open and rooms needs to be explored, that's why they're there. Plus wouldn't you be curious to see and find out what's in there or where it could take you? 

Ups and downs

Just like Melbournes unpredictable 4-seasons-in-a-day weather experience, we go through an exciting and unexpected emotional roller coaster ride. We get to experience disappointment, gloominess, distressing, excitement, joyful and fortunate events, might not be all in one day but we do experience it. And we can't avoid the little bumps in life, we can't just always be experiencing the thrill in life and we do have to start at the bottom to make our way back up again. So this is just a friendly reminder that you won't always be at the top because you do have to go back down, and you won't always be at the bottom because amazing things can happen or you can make them yourself. :)

Middle child

Yesterday I had an interesting conversation and our topic was siblings and if it was hard being a middle child. I was asked to describe how it was like being a middle child and I said it was unfair and tough. 

To be honest being a middle child is just as challenging as being the first child. The first child gets to experience all the first. But since all the first are done the middle child now has a higher expectation than the first child, only because our parents learn from mistakes. Therefore being the middle child, you are then forced to being the 'perfect child' and I'm not saying this is applicable to all the cases but you have to admit it is quite true. There are a higher pressure put on you since the first child has failed to do a certain expectation they had and you are expected not to make the same mistake because they have guided you better than the first child. Then again this is just how I see it since I am a middle child. 

Expectations or happiness

Expectations or Happiness? There are some points in life where you have to choose between these two. Whether it'll be for your friends, parents or partners, at one point we'll all have to choose between those two. And depending on the circumstances I'm just going to assume that most of you will pick expectations right? I mean putting someone else's happiness over yours seems like the right thing to do. But when you do pick happiness over expectation, seeing the disappointed faces of your loved ones what can do you do? Do you put your happiness aside or do you still persue it? 

Always have your back

No matter how alone you might feel, just remember that there will always be someone there who will support you. You might not get this from your parents but your friend or partner will always have your back. Not everyone will agree to your opinion and decision and you have to accept that since no one is perfect, we make mistakes and learn something from it. That's why sometimes it's best to make the mistake early and learn from it than not making any and feeling completely lost later on.. But it's fine because we can only control so much in our life and some are unavoidable. Just remember that you are never truly alone, even when you think you are. Your friends are one text or call away, just don't hesitate or think twice because they will always have your back. 

Might as well give your important friend a yellow rose which symbolizes friendship, joy and caring. :P

Gamble

This is a gambling game I played while I was in the Philippines. The way the game works is you place money in a colour you think the soccer ball would land on, there's no guarantee or any type of pattern as to where the ball will go since you'll be the one throwing it. So in your hands, you practically hold a one in a twelve chance of landing it to the colour of your choice (assuming that you only bet on one colour). My point is, in life you'll make decisions and plently of them. Some will have guarantees while some you'll just have to bet and rely on your luck. But whatever happens, happens. Whether it'll ended up being a win or lose we just have to accept it and be happy that we won or better luck next time and hopefully learn something from it. I know I learned something for sure, that is I have no luck in any of these games LOL. 

You deserve it

Every once in a while we should just reward ourselves a break. A small break from whatever has been holding us back, whether it'll be a day or two of a quick escape to a mini paradise. We all deserve a break from life and whether we admit this or not it's true. I mean, we're only human and we can only take so much before we reach our breaking point. So whether it'll be a quick trip to the beach or catching up with some mates, go and reward yourself because you deserve it. :)

Not everything is wrong

When our mind is occupated with I guess you could say 'unwanted' thoughts. We just need to take a deep breath, step back and look at the bigger picture. Remind ourself that not everything is going downhill. Because trust me as much as you think that everything is just going wrong with you and your life. There will always be something right, it might not be as big as the problem you're facing but there will always be something and if you add all these small and simple 'right' things it could and/or would make you feel more proud and lift up your mood as a person. So just don't forget that because I know I do. 

Never judge

My parents always reminded me to be thankful of what I have because there are PLENTLY of other people who'll rather have the life I have now than theirs. As much as that is true. You can never measure how much a person can go through in life just by wealth. Yeah a typical mind set of someone who's struggling when they see someone who is in a much 'happier' and I guess 'money isn't the issue' life is that they're living life the fullest with no worries.. But that's when they're wrong. Because we will all go through hardships. We will all face a problem well have to solve, a wall to climb over. Just because you see a person smiling doesn't mean that they don't cry themselves to sleep. 'Never judge a book by its cover' because the real story is within.. 

Just a friendly reminder. 

Never be too scared

Sometimes in life you just got to take a risk and make a turn into a road or a street you're not used to. Whether it'll make it quicker or take longer to get to the place you want to get to, it's worth finding out, right? I mean yeah it's all fun and I guess you'll feel much safer being on the same road you're used to but wouldn't you get curious whether they'll be other ways to get there? A back up plan? Whether it'll be a shortcut or a long cut you wouldn't know unless you try right? But then again.. What if it's just a no through road? A dead end..? Does that mean you should just stop there? Of course not. 

Never be afraid to try something new because you'll never know what you could discover. 

Slow down

Sometimes don't you just feel that life is just going to fast for you? Like days feels like they're being fast forwarded to a day you dread to come? Wishing it'll slow down and 'take its time', even though you know well enough that time actually runs the same pace for everyone every time. That it's all just a feeling you get.